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LOVE:

I have no idea what love is. The way many people perceive love; I do not. This came to light during my two relationships. I put a lot into both, as much (love) as I thought was needed, but then my perception of my love I gave, was quite different to that I received...but of one thing I am absolutely certain about: familiarity does breed contempt and can destroy relationships no matter what premise they were built on if the fire is left to fizzle out. Both man and woman these days pursue what they call, a career, and their lives become rather like two passing ships in the night, and some relationships thus, fizzle out and they part company. When two people share separate lives in a relationship, often one or both, seek comfort in the arms of another more suited to their schedule and keeping together what they began with is no longer an issue. What happened to love in the latter scenario? All too often I see this in life, this is why I do not believe in love, the word has become too elasticised for my liking, rather like the word friend has, and people stretch it around any which way they want until it snaps, usually in the face of the one who misperceived their partner's, or their friend's interpretation of what they thought was love and friendship.

Extremely beautiful women and extremely handsome men, can be, in my own personal opinion and experience with many of both species, head-bangers of the highest order...both having many notches carved into their ultra-alter ego as they destroy each short relationships and had not a clue as to what LOVE may have constituted in the first instance, nor do I by the way. The lyrics of many songs give us a hint at what can go wrong, but it is usually far too late when after virtually destroying their partnerships, it all sinks in and they begin their long laments through short-sightedness and blame anything or one other than their own selfishness and lusting for their next victim having burnt the heart out of the previous lover. So, what sort of a game does LOVE play in this scenario?

My notion of love is: if a couple met in their early years, married or not, but stayed together and had children or not, but went right through their lives together and after 50-60 years on were still together no matter what took place between them both, then that must surely qualify them to have a very good idea of what LOVE actually is and what it stands for. After 23 years, excepting a week, my ex-wife told me she no longer loved me and asked me to leave our home and our children, why, I wondered? The only reason she gave me years after we were divorced was that it was the menopause to blame, but I had to wait almost 6 years for that reason.

Apart from things like the menopause blinding love, among other reasonable excuses like he/she turned out a murderer, paedophile or whatever, I have come to the conclusion the greatest offender destroying LOVE between two people is FAMILIARITY...it really does breed CONTEMPT by far in the most cases, where lovers split after they have unravelled the whole package to see beneath the exterior...that sacred bit we all have inside us...the bits that make up the whole of us as a person. You will without doubt surely suffer the consequences if you allow yourself to be swayed to dropping your lover because he or she snores, farts, belches, picks one's nose, scratches one's rear-end, eats noisily, coughs, smokes, has bad health, bad breath or whatever...sort it out, talk about it, reach a compromise! The orifices we have in our bodies grew by natural genetic design, not by choice...so deal with it and move on together, stop trying to be Mr. or Mrs. Perfect! Perfection within the scale of above is only for the Divine, we are mere mortals, no more, no less. That animal magnetism, that surge of electricity at each gentle touch that brought you and your partner together in the first instance must never be allowed to fade and disappear all together...if it brought you together, stay together and sort out your differences, but never lose sight of WHY you came together in the first instance.

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