love

LOVE:

I do, without doubt, having had only two meaningful relationships in my whole life; one lasting 23-years and the other 17-years, conclude as I look back over these relationships that I really do not understand love at all, not even in the smallest way. In love, I am not a great believer as the word "LOVE" has far too many connotations in the modern world in which we all now live.

People sing a myriad of songs about it, write poems about it, write love stories galore and many profess to have it for each other, and many want it for each other. But still, I think love is a state of mind in the circumstance one finds one's self in at the time, and in the minds of many people, love is perhaps perceived differently. Some people react differently to their partner's perception of love and how they interact with it with each other. Love has many facets: lust, spite, jealousy, covertness, pride, false ownership, mistrust, betrayal, and above all: familiarity breeds contempt, among a myriad of other fixations. Over familiarity...getting to know each other's warts and all, often leads to contempt for each other as one dislike after another soon puts a blight on love and sends it to the corner with a dunce's hat on, so to speak.

It is arguable that the premise for love, is the fact that the instinct born within us for the need to procreate is so strong, it makes us think we need to fall in love in order to complete the transaction, which when you get down to the nuts and bolts of the whole affair, it is the ritual of the mating-game. However, many people believe there is something more ulterior, a hidden agenda beyond just simply, procreating, and create within themselves another deeper reason for wanting to be loved and to love. Loneliness, for example, drives many people to search for a lover, a companion, a soul-mate...someone to be with and to love and be loved by. A person thought to be seen as being ugly, for example, will feel isolated, left out of the love-game through being ignored and search for their idea of love and some, sadly, never find it and live their lives completely alone, some are fortunate and push until they find a loving partner.

We can see thus far, love means many different things to many differing people's aspects of how they perceive love and what they want from love. So, the concept of love has many tentacles. To procreate in a society with society's blessing was to find a suitable partner, get married, buy a house and have children. Apart from the fact that this ancient process is still practiced today, so too have many other modern ideas of free-love expressions sprung to the fore, and has added more facets to love and its pursuit.

Many men and women...the jealous types...feed their lover with their favourite foods until they become obese and therefore, unattractive to an admirer outside their relationship, usually based on unfounded suspicion driven by jealousy, keeping them at home to do the "Chief cook, bottle-washer" stint. They do this knowing their partner will be there when they get home. A mean trick, but jealousy is ahead of the field on that one! I ought to know, I have been there...with the stealthy, but gradual over-eating bit at the hands of my partner, I mean, so I know what I am talking about!

A man is the most potent of the species of homo sapiens, as indeed is any male species of animal, for he is the seed-sewer. Woman is the fertile ground into which he sews his seeds. In order for the man to sew his seeds, he invented the love ritual...that has never changed. Woman who wants to have her children as she feels at one with her maternal calling, invented her idea of the love ritual. And so we have two perceptions of the mating-game in play. This play, is perceived as love, however, does love mean having children? So the answer will show you how love, the very concept of love has been taken out of its context and is used to express varied notions other than just having children. So the very word, LOVE, can be modelled like a piece of putty to make out of it what one will.

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